And now for our regularly scheduled post…
Given that we have three very talkative brains, it’s inevitable that they would have different ways of dealing with sexuality. Since we are a bisexual species, our Lizard and Monkey brains can be either male or female. Angel brains work differently depending on the sex of a person, but generally speaking they don’t actually have a gender, thus how a person develops sexual preferences appears to be largely a matter of whether our Lizard and Monkey brains match the physical equipment.
When it comes to sex, the Lizard brain uses a dominance-submission framework. Male Lizard brains are dominant, female Lizard brains are submissive. In most of us, the gender of the Lizard brain matches the equipment, so men tend to be dominant and women tend to be submissive. But in a small fraction of the population, the Lizard brain doesn’t match the equipment, with the result that women with male Lizard brains tend to be dominant, particularly in any partnership, romantic or not, and men with female Lizard brains tend to be submissive. If this is the only mismatch, such women still prefer male partners and vice versa.
On the other hand, the Monkey brain uses a framework based on physical and emotional attractiveness. In most of us, the Monkey brain also matches the physical equipment, so men want women as mates, and women want men as mates. In a small fraction of the population, however, the Monkey brain doesn’t match the physical equipment, with the result that men with female Monkey brains find other men attractive, and women with male Monkey brains find other women attractive. If this is the only mismatch, however, the men will be dominant and the women submissive.
In very rare cases, both brains match each other, but not the physical equipment, with the result that you may have a relatively submissive male who prefers other males as sexual partners, or a relatively dominant female who prefers females as sexual partners. In some cases the mismatch is so emotionally painful that the person will do whatever is necessary to make the physical equipment match the brains’ view of sexuality.
What causes these brain mismatches is not for me to say beyond the fact that they exist. As a person with a male Lizard and a female Monkey brain, I tend to be dominant in relationships but prefer a male partner. I have been most fortunate to find one, my husband of 42 years, who has been willing to put up with me all this time.
Next time we’ll review the Lizard Monkey Angel theory as a whole.